I'll grow an exoskeleton,
to shield the caves and alcoves of my mind,
from your trespassing.
Like a selkie bride
I'll find my seal skin
and go back to the water.
For the romance is me.
by Sophia Hobbs
The title of today's blog is a response to hurtful comments I recently received. Writing for me has always been a great source of solace so it is now that I turn to it. I have always known I have my flippant tendencies, I have big ideas which don't always come to fruition but I defend this side of myself fiercely. Those ideas are a process, its a creative way of thinking which helps me sift through what I think I want and what I'll actually do. All the ideas which were leading me somewhere important have happened, I'm writing this blog and run the Land Locked Surfers, which were after all mere seeds of thought.
My decision to go to South Africa and particularly to go work on a surf volunteer project has been criticized by the people who I hoped would be the most happiest for me. Naturally their negativity is fear derived but it does not make their cynicism less of a jagged pill to swallow.
At work I can tolerate challenging behavior from service users, work myself into the ground and go to the ends of the earth for my friends without thanks but do not tell me who I am, this I find abominable. I once was on a date with a guy who tried to psychoanalyze me, his summary was fairly accurate in all honesty, but he did not fathom that the traits he deemed unfavorable are actually the ones I hold most dear. I seem directionless and have more ideas about what to do than hot baths, but its a method not a disease.
When it comes to problems I am like a Selkie in that I flee as travelling has always been a coping mechanism for me. When I was in nursery school I was constantly under watch because I had a habit of hiding from the teachers and trying to run home, I've always picked flight over fight as something about distance helps me understand a situation and gives me the space I need to resolve it.
Today I chose fight. Not because I wish to lash out or throw words but because I want to defend myself. I may be all the assumptions you've made about me but I'm also so much more. Even my regrets I cherish for they have been the nourishment needed for me to grow and learn from.
I am in process and I make no apologizes for that.
The plan to go work for a few weeks in Africa is rash, expensive and most definitely a spur of the moment decision but my gosh isn't that wonderful! I don't know what will happen when I'm out there if I'll make a difference, or even if I'll enjoy it but my arms are open to the possibilities, for the sheer adventure of it.
Anyway enough of that.
Here's a round up of a few inspirations this week...
I also wanted to mention Kiwi Hannah Horton's blog 'Health Yeah!' I love perusing her site for new recipes which are all about eating fresh, nourishing your body simplistically and living the surfer life. Hannah even tells you how to make sustainable alcohol free eye liner.
Check her out!
Ok that's enough rambling for one day
Until next time...
Stay strong, surf well
Love
to shield the caves and alcoves of my mind,
from your trespassing.
Like a selkie bride
I'll find my seal skin
and go back to the water.
For the romance is me.
by Sophia Hobbs
The title of today's blog is a response to hurtful comments I recently received. Writing for me has always been a great source of solace so it is now that I turn to it. I have always known I have my flippant tendencies, I have big ideas which don't always come to fruition but I defend this side of myself fiercely. Those ideas are a process, its a creative way of thinking which helps me sift through what I think I want and what I'll actually do. All the ideas which were leading me somewhere important have happened, I'm writing this blog and run the Land Locked Surfers, which were after all mere seeds of thought.
My decision to go to South Africa and particularly to go work on a surf volunteer project has been criticized by the people who I hoped would be the most happiest for me. Naturally their negativity is fear derived but it does not make their cynicism less of a jagged pill to swallow.
At work I can tolerate challenging behavior from service users, work myself into the ground and go to the ends of the earth for my friends without thanks but do not tell me who I am, this I find abominable. I once was on a date with a guy who tried to psychoanalyze me, his summary was fairly accurate in all honesty, but he did not fathom that the traits he deemed unfavorable are actually the ones I hold most dear. I seem directionless and have more ideas about what to do than hot baths, but its a method not a disease.
When it comes to problems I am like a Selkie in that I flee as travelling has always been a coping mechanism for me. When I was in nursery school I was constantly under watch because I had a habit of hiding from the teachers and trying to run home, I've always picked flight over fight as something about distance helps me understand a situation and gives me the space I need to resolve it.
Today I chose fight. Not because I wish to lash out or throw words but because I want to defend myself. I may be all the assumptions you've made about me but I'm also so much more. Even my regrets I cherish for they have been the nourishment needed for me to grow and learn from.
I am in process and I make no apologizes for that.
The plan to go work for a few weeks in Africa is rash, expensive and most definitely a spur of the moment decision but my gosh isn't that wonderful! I don't know what will happen when I'm out there if I'll make a difference, or even if I'll enjoy it but my arms are open to the possibilities, for the sheer adventure of it.
Anyway enough of that.
Here's a round up of a few inspirations this week...
I read about Otelo is Burning months ago and desperately wanted to see it then. Now that there is promise to visit South Africa I want to see it with even more vehemence. The film was directed by Sara Blecher a woman I also desperately want to interview - wish me luck!
I also wanted to mention Kiwi Hannah Horton's blog 'Health Yeah!' I love perusing her site for new recipes which are all about eating fresh, nourishing your body simplistically and living the surfer life. Hannah even tells you how to make sustainable alcohol free eye liner.
Check her out!
Ok that's enough rambling for one day
Until next time...
Stay strong, surf well
Love
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